FactualFeminist

Aug 21

quote Have you ever heard the phrase cockblocking? You know, you’re at a bar, talking to a girl, and what happens? Her less attractive friend comes over and ruins everything. Cockblock. Well I have to tell you something guys: I have been the less attractive friend, and you were NOT cockblocked. I was following orders from my better-looking friend that she did not wanna fuck you. …Girls have two signals for their friends: ‘I’m gonna fuck him’ and ‘HELP.’

Amy Schumer [x] (via rashaka)

The number of “get me out of here” tactics women have developed and shared to help each other escape from overly-insistent-to-borderline-predatory dudes in public places should probably be enough evidence of the existence of rape culture all on its own.

(via madgastronomer)

YES

(via ellakrystina)

I especially like how, in the majority of cases, you don’t have to verbally communicate what your signals are to other women. I’ve had women I didn’t even know come save me. Literally every woman recognizes the “Dear god, help me” facial expression, and knows exactly what they should do. We don’t get a handbook for this. We don’t have a sit-down nail polish party where we talk about a standardized woman code for preventing creepers. It’s just part of being a woman.

BUT LOL RAPE CULTURE DOESN’T EXIST.

(via eastberlin)

Yup. I’ve definitely taken strangers by the arm and pulled her aside to go, “Oh my GOD it’s you! How ARE YOU?!? It’s been so long!” and then been like “hey I could overhear that guy who wouldn’t leave you alone so I figured I’d give you an out” and then see their VISIBLY RELIEVED expressions. This is part of girl code, because rape culture is that pervasive.

(via thebicker)

I once had a girl sit on my lap and say “hey baby” after she witnessed a guy (who was easily 20+ years older than me) hitting on me and harassing me for my number even after I told him I was taken. After he got up and left she asked if I was okay. I couldn’t thank her enough times, I even bought her a drink.

(via castielsmiles)

We have done this. In fact, we are this. Because we are asexual and we don’t like alcohol so we never drink, we have gone with friends to parties/places where our sole job was to keep an eye out for everyone and be the permanent ‘aggressive man-sheild.’ Not one of our female friends has ever questioned this or found it all strange. In fact, often once they realized we were willing to do it, it would be pre-arranged. Every guy friend we ever did this in front of or tried to explain to looked flabbergasted. They had no idea that this was a) an intentional thing, b) a planned ahead thing, or c) universal.

Rape culture is the fact that every woman understands this. Male privilege is the fact that no guy on earth seems to know or understand.

(via cractasticdispatches)

I’ve been asked to pretend to be my friend’s girlfriend every time we go out at night, just because she wears clothes that show off her curves and guys won’t leave her alone. They only back off when I put my arm around her and act as if we’re together romantically, and sometimes not even then.

(via zaataronpita)

i once ran interference for a friend, only to receive the unwanted advances myself. he wouldn’t back off until my (male) friend literally wrapped me up in his arms and acted as if he was my S.O.

(via miljathefailcat)

It happens online too. A guy I know started Facebook-stalking me after a recent interaction, and my roommate immediately got on Facebook and told him she was my girlfriend. He thankfully backed off after that.

I can’t count the number of times I have pretended to be somebody’s girlfriend or sister in a bar when a guy wouldn’t leave her alone. Both with friends and strangers.

(via feministsupernatural)

After reading these, I feel like taking a shower. Because I’m the designated driver pretty much every time, not being a big fan of alcohol, but I rarely, if ever, intervene. And yeah, I’m small and pretty physically weak, but I could put my foot down verbally if it came down to it. I’m just too scared.

(via harperhug)

You’re probably scared of confronting the guys.  And you should be.  That’s what this whole post is about.  Rape culture is so prevalent and socially accepted as the rule of the land that if someone confronts a guy and tells him directly to back off, someone is getting hurt.  That’s why all of the testimonies here are examples of how to deflect.  How women all learn methods of pulling a woman away from a situation with a guy who isn’t allowing her to say no, by making up some lie that will get the guy to let her go without sending him into a rage and deciding to teach you both a lesson about knowing your place and submitting to rape culture.  Men are dangerous in these situations because all of society backs them up as just a nice guy who deserves a chance, and vilifies any woman who refuses to give him a chance.  Women are not allowed to say no.  So other women have to rescue the women saying no and pull them away with some made up excuse.  Otherwise the situation will escalate and the ones who get hurt are always the women. 

(via coffeegleek)

Women absolutely have to learn rescue tactics for each other, but it’s kind of funny how we describe really obvious facial expressions and body language as “secret signals.” The reality is that women telegraph disinterest in these aggressive men, making it super obvious, but men choose to ignore it. Total strangers who are just sitting nearby or happen to glace their way will be able to see that the woman isn’t interested, but the guy making the advances is somehow oblivious? Unlikely.

(via smitethepatriarchy)

And its fucked because women actively know the signs while men have refused to learn any body language signal of “leave me alone” that women do.

Women are always the one who have to accommodate their behavior to suit mens egos.

(via sourcedumal)

triflin’ ass dudes, take note. and please PLEASE, men, become interference runners for your women friends

(via weakdaes)

Aug 21

lizbethvaughn:

extraordinaryfearlessness:

lizbethvaughn:

staystrongandshinebright:

xaldien:

Hans + saying the one thing he knows will break each sister

Gotta love how Disney has created one of the most realistic portrayals of a sociopath in recent history, and it’s actually terrifying.

that is why he is the scariest villain of Disney to date. because he was “normal” just like the rest of us.

For me the scariest Disney villains are Judge Frollo, Hans, and Mother Gothel. Because they’re all so realistic. We see them in our everyday lives. Judge Frollo is the corrupt politician who uses their power to persecute others, Hans is the con artist who plays with people’s feelings to get what he wants, and Gothel is the emotionally abusive parent.

I agree with all of these, and I’d have to add Gaston to the list, and possibly at the top. Gaston is the man who was rejected by a woman and then decides to hurt others because of it. Is there anything more relevant to society right now?

Perfect addition! I can’t believe I forgot about Gaston!

Aug 20

bogleech:

gameraboy:

"A Sticky Situation" (1960) by Carl Barks

I like how advertising is literally still exactly as sexist as they’re joking about in this comic from 54 years ago.

Aug 20

livelify:

mattsmithpaw:

mattsmithpaw:

iM LAUGHING LIKE A MANIAC MY RAT JUST WENT INSIDE MY BROTHER’S TOY CAR AND SAT IN THE FRONT SEAT

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AM I SUPPOSE TO LAUGH AT THE RAT OR THE DOG


BOTH

Aug 19

rainnecassidy:

forgetpolitics:

I. AM. FUCKING. DEAD.

I think I may have just wet myself

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Aug 19
professorfangirl:

unreconstructedfangirl:

allysongrono:

I just found this and fell through a black hole of fangirl, never to be found again. LATERZ

WUT. No.

I showed this to my boyfriend at the coffeeshop and he got so flustered he was literally speechless. A friend asked, “No offense, Warren, but aren’t you straight?” and bf answered, “NOBODY’S that straight!”

professorfangirl:

unreconstructedfangirl:

allysongrono:

I just found this and fell through a black hole of fangirl, never to be found again. LATERZ

WUT. No.

I showed this to my boyfriend at the coffeeshop and he got so flustered he was literally speechless. A friend asked, “No offense, Warren, but aren’t you straight?” and bf answered, “NOBODY’S that straight!”

Aug 18

realtalksexadvice:

rikkisixx:

The Great Wall of Vagina - Jamie McCartney (x)

Jamie made molds of the vaginas of women between 18 and 76 years. Among others, they include twins and transgender women. Women are often confused about their vagina, because they think it looks different: with this project he demonstrates that vaginas are as different as faces. McCartney hopes that his work will help to stop the increasing growth of labia corrections in recent years.

It’s been a while since we posted The Great Wall of Vagina. See guys, every one is unique, everyone is perfect in their own way, and there is absolutely no such thing as “normal” when it comes to your bits.

Aug 18
Aug 17

nowyoukno:

Source for more facts follow NowYouKno


I love this show.

Aug 17
night-catches-us:

queenrihyonce:

This here is nothing short of amazing

Now this is solidarity. 

night-catches-us:

queenrihyonce:

This here is nothing short of amazing

Now this is solidarity.